Proverbs 31:30 says,
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Being a 21st century young woman can be tough especially where what one looks like on the outside is more glorified than what is on the inside. You might have heard all this before but the truth remains unchanged. We allow people to define us by our looks and fashion sense.
The bottom line is that, whatever we do, including dressing up must be done to God’s glory. I cannot deny that when I look good, I feel good too. Your choice of clothing can do wonders to your self-esteem and confidence but when you are dressing up to go out, ask yourself these questions:
#Am I presentable?
#Will God approve of what I am wearing?
#What is the motive behind my choice of clothing? To look good, sexy, draw attention from people or to be comfortable?
#Is my body properly covered?
There are so many ways we can evaluate our dressing but in the end, God’s Spirit in us should convict us daily.
There was a particular cute brown knee-length dress I used to have. It was so pretty but as I began to grow I realized that although it fitted me like a glove it was getting too short. In order to make myself feel better about not giving it away, I wear it only during winter so I could wear panty hose to cover my legs and thighs. Eventually, I gave in to the prompting of the Holy Spirit and gave it away to someone younger.
There are many things we “feel” are okay and are “manageable” but are actually not pleasing to God. Feeling good about wearing ripped clothing does not mean it is okay to wear it or because it is the latest fashion trend.
In 1 Corinthians 13: 12, Apostle Paul wrote,
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
As we grow in Christ, we will shed our old ways off, sometimes with a battle and sometimes not. In the end, we will realize that some things were really not all that important.
I once read an article online about a brother in Christ who complained about how men are affected by how sisters dress. It was an eye opener because obviously the way some of us sisters dress is inappropriate and is causing our brothers to sin. You could say,
“Well that is none of my business. They should focus their eyes on why they are in church!”
Love does not act nor talk in this manner. Whatever we say or do should build others up and not tear them apart or destroy them. I have heard that a woman could be wearing a sack and men would still find her attractive and so you might say,
“If it is that way, what I wear doesn’t matter.”
But it is beyond that, for dressing up has deeper and more complicated consequences than meet the eye (we will deal with that another time). Dressing up modestly is beyond following or abiding by moral obligations. It is respecting yourself as a woman (I need to address guy’s dressing code too…soon), honouring God and being a good role model for the coming generation. You do not exist only for yourself but for others too.
Here are some samples that might help to guide us (the Holy Spirit is the best guide):
Your shortest skirt or dress can be just right on the knees and not any shorter because when you bend or sit, it would still rise up,
Some people have argued that it should actually be ankle-length…but this is my opinion and I do love ankle-length dresses and skirts too.
These are totally beautiful…Modesty Rocks!!!
What about trousers? Many Christians believe women should not wear trousers because it is men’s clothing and quoting Deuteronomy 22:5,
A woman must not wear men’s clothing, nor a man wear women’s clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this.
But now, where does it say trousers are for men? I remember clearly that in the Old testament and even other ancient times that men wore dresses and skirts like their women counterparts. Today, we have trousers sow specifically for men as well as for women. Therefore, there is nothing confusing about this.
Now, we have some professions that have uniforms such as in the Medical field, Police force, Airport staff etc.
But others just require formal wear without specifications and I find these modest and beautiful
SOCIAL EVENTS/ CHURCH
Now this is an area I have issues with. We seem to be at a loss when it comes to this and why am I saying this? I have seen Christian women in totally tight fitting, an entire back opening, cleavage advertising and mini attires all in the name of going for an occasion and looking good. Here are some really gorgeous samples for us to gush on.
What about weddings? I have seen Christian brides wearing dresses that left nothing to the imagination.
This is not a criticism of people’s personal taste in fashion but sharing my observations and recommendations . I’m not saying we should dress up in long sleeved clothing and ankle length clothing all year long (summer can be brutal!!!) but that we should honour our God and ourselves as well as not be a stumbling block causing others to sin.
Oh dear…I surely have nothing much to say in this one except, “let God lead in everything.” Sportswomen wear skimpy outfits for comfort-ability and maybe technical reasons.
But what about bikinis and pants for swimming? I think Christian women should get more modest ones.
In conclusion, “Modesty” should be our watchword. You want to wear jewelry, ? Be modest. Have the right motive for everything you do. Our lives does not consist only in the abundance of what we have nor is defined by what attracts people to us.
I leave you with the following scriptures as well as under the grace of Abba;
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
1 Timothy 2:9
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,
1 Timothy 2:9-10
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.
1 Peter 3:3-4
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
Remain in Christ’s love