Shalom sons and daughters of love. 

I hope this finds us well. Let us continue from where we ended…marriage phobia, career commitments and transformations.


After shedding off the myths and misconceptions about love and marriage, I was left with the task of working with God to build myself, my purpose and dreams. It was like starting from scratch (when life throws you down) but it is worth it because now my priorities are centered on Abba, my purpose as written by Him and my career, family and loved ones. I am learning what it means to be a true follower of Christ and pushing my career. I am not sure I will ever be ready for courtship and marriage (these are more complicated than math!) but I am taking things one day at a time, after all, Jesus said not to worry about tomorrow for He’s got it all under control. I want to fully know what it means to seek God’s Kingdom first and its Righteousness so that all other things be added at God’s time and not mine.

Why am I telling you all this? I am sharing this so that single men and women can learn to do what is called “total surrender.” This means that we must wait with purpose and faith in GOD. We should seek God and pursue our God given vision. God knows you and knows what you need. He will send the right guy or girl at His time. Remember that it is better to marry late than to marry early and suffer for life. Marriage is a beautiful ministry and it needs those who are not only emotionally sound to an extent but also spiritually strong because marriage is one of the major target of the enemy.

I am healing and growing well and marriage has taken a back seat once again. There are some days I desire to be married already but marriage is not something to rush in to. There are days too where I just feel, “nah! I’m okay on my own!” It is something that is sacred and should be taken seriously. I don’t know if God’s perfect Will would show up tomorrow but I know who I am (a Chosen Generation and Royal priesthood), I know where I am going (Psalm 119:105 Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path; Jeremiah 29:11For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,) and I know that God’s time is the best time. Perhaps Nae Sarang is just right in front of me or far away in another continent but I know whom I believe and His name is Jesus Christ.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 says,

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

So why worry about, “my friends are getting married. I’m getting old. He is taking too long to propose.” Kissing marriage goodbye is not a declaration that I am rejecting marriage but an awakening and pursuit of one’s God given vision and destiny. It is a reminder that not settling for less is not pride but wisdom to know your purpose and eternity with Jesus cannot be compromised.


It is a call that older and younger single men and women should not pursue marriage so much that they forget their own purpose and assignment in God’s vineyard. It is a call to be confident as men and women after God’s heart, who will not be swayed by naysayers and people with “good intentions.”

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It is a call to love your single status, enjoy it and grow in it. By the time your future spouse comes around, he or she would know that, this person is a GEM. They would know they struck it big and should be grateful to God everyday of their life for sending you into their life. My brothers and sisters; Uncles and Aunts, you are worth waiting for! If Jesus could come to this world to die just for you, that alone should tell you that you are priceless and the Apple of God’s eye.

Don’t allow yourself to be used as lab rat (if you have a child for me, I will marry you – you deserve better!!!) Marry right and you will fulfill destiny.

Marry wrong and it might be “goodbye” to your vision and God’s purpose for your life! Please don’t misunderstand me. God is in the business of restoration but isn’t it better to stay focused and trusting in God than settle for whatever comes? God’s time is beautiful. May your love and trust in Him never fail in Jesus’ name.


So for me, it is,

Goodbye marriage until Abba says you could come.

Goodbye romance until Abba says it is time.

Goodbye Nae Sarang until it is time for our destinies to be revealed.

Good Morning Holy Spirit, walk with me always.



Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for saving our souls and giving us a purpose. Thank you for loving us and showering us with your mercy daily. Abba, as a we walk with you daily, grant us grace to wait upon you peacefully, joyfully and faithfully in everything. Heal those who are brokenhearted and give them strength to pursue the visions you placed in their hearts. Make us a channel of love where there is hate; a channel of peace where there is discord; a channel of forgiveness where there is un-forgiveness and a channel of light where there is darkness. Thank you Jesus for answering our prayers. Kamsahamnida Abeoji. Mahal Kita! Amen.